My name is Etimbuk Udo aka (De Real G). I focused on building relationships and understanding the nature of man.
This message will challenge you to rebuild, rethink, realign your relationship and shift your destiny to fulfillment.
But you must be ready and willing to accept the truth and I assure you that your life will have a better shape if you apply what you learn.
I am not here to talk you down or talk you out if your life and relationships are already working, rather I want you to see the other side of your life that you can do better, most importantly not to invest in relationship that is not
growing, friendship that is not helping and your life is going down every single day.
FEW THINGS I WANT YOU TO KNOW.
💥You can not get to where you are going with the kind of people hanging around you if you check very well. You know your circle.
💥If you are always trying to proof how committed you are to your relationship, you will
do just that all through your life as far as you want to keep that relationship.
💥To achieve whatever you want in life, decisions, determination and discipline are key factors. And when you make these things your life, you will see the results with ease.
💥Many times people follow the footsteps of their friends and get lost, misbehave and die while others follow the footsteps of their friends too and win in life,
get a good job, travel and make impacts.
The difference is the kind of friends you follow.
I want to talk to you about something very important and common among us young people. It affects your destiny, your choices, and your future — and that is: YOUR CIRCLE
What Does It Mean to Choose?
To choose means to select, pick, or gather.
When I say "choose your circle," I mean the people you surround yourself with.
Your life is shaped not just by your personal decisions, but by the people in your space. The friends you keep, the voices you listen to, and the circle you trust can either:
✅ Push you forward into purpose
❌ Or pull you backward into pain
As young people, we often imitate our friends — not because we want to — but because of bonding and the fear of being left out.
But ask yourself:
👉 Where is this friendship leading me?
👉 What will be the end of this journey?
Four (4) Ways Your Circle Affects Your Future
1. Your Circle Is Your Mirror
Who you walk with reflects who you are and who you're becoming.
If your friends are lazy, negative, or careless, it’s just a matter of time before you become like them.
But when you’re surrounded by dreamers, believers, and achievers — they force you to rise higher.
2. Your Circle Shapes Your Standards
Your friends influence your thinking, talking, and even what you tolerate.
If you stay around people who normalize failure or toxic behavior, you’ll start to lower your standards.
But the right circle will challenge you, correct you in love, and help you grow in character.
3. The Power of Influence
Most young people already know the difference between right and wrong.
Yet, many still fall —Because they allow their circle to shape their direction — and sometimes that direction is straight into destruction.
Ask yourself:
What impact has your circle made on you?
What are you exposed to daily?
Are you becoming better or bitter?
Wiser or weaker?
4. Relationship Pressure & Lies
Many young girls — even at 19 or 20 — are already tired of relationships. Why?
Because someone told them: “Time is going.”
Let me tell you the truth:
🔔 You are NOT late. You are right on time.
Don’t let fear rush you into something God hasn’t prepared yet.
And guys, listen too:
The lie of “all way na way” is a trap.
It pulls many into ungodly actions that can destroy your future in seconds.
The regret is real, and often too late to fix.
Real Talk
Many people misbehaving in society today were once raised well. But when they stepped out into the street, pressure overwhelmed them.
They:
Bowed to pressure.
Chased pleasure.
Believed the lie that working hard is suffering.
And they lost their way.
How to Choose Your Circle
🔑 Discover Your Purpose Early
In essence, purpose is the journey, and destiny is the destination. Understanding your purpose can help you navigate your journey towards your destiny, whether you believe it's predetermined or not.
Don’t follow the crowd. Follow God’s voice.
Purpose will:
Guide your friendships
Protect your peace
Direct your decisions
Ask yourself:
Are you just a church-goer or a true believer? Because your beliefs will shape your choices — in friends, business, and relationships.
One Final Truth
If two girls are dating two guys who are friends — and one couple breaks up — the other relationship is likely to crash too.
Why? Because they share the same influence and the same circle.
That’s why you must build with people who are rooted in Christ, not just trending in the world.
Conclusion
You don’t rise alone — you rise with your circle.
✅ Choose friends who challenge you, not those who drain you.
✅ Choose a circle that sharpens,lifts and support your vision.
May you be surrounded by wise people.
May you walk in purpose.
And may you never be a victim of the wrong circle.
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