BE REAL WITH WHO YOU ARE.
You were born an original. Don t die a copy.It’s easy to start conforming to society, especially when you surround yourself with noises and influential personalities be it positive or negative. Paul apostle said in (Romans 12:2)
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing, you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. Always be real. You only have one life to live, so why would you spend it worrying about other people’s opinions instead of God's plan over you? Worries change nothing but action change everything. Do whatever you want, be whoever you want. The only people in your life who want you to do better than them are your parents, everybody else will at some stage get jealous if you do better than them. Keep moving don't stop,drop every fear and take chances. James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” Worrying too much about what other people think of you can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Frequently, people indulge their need to be liked so much, and that actually affect the way they behave. Some become people-pleasers or so submissive that many people turned back on them. The behavior you use as an attempt to ensure you are liked may actually cause you to be disliked. So Be real with who you are.
Do you know that People generally don’t always think outside themselves a great deal of time? It is sad but a simple truth that the average person think about most things in terms of “me” or “my”.
This means that, unless who you are related to them or what you have done directly affects another person or their life, they are unlikely to spend much time thinking about you at all,Be real.
When it comes to training yourself, be more mindful, you need to be real. It would be a challenge to try to be mindful when you are living a life that is fake and materialistic.
But When you’re able to be connected with your inner being, even during the rainiest of days, (hard time) you will remain true to yourself and people around you. And if you don't like the way you're treated, there is only one course of action--to change your own behavior, because you can't change anyone else's. Every foundation you lay now will be a home you will live in tomorrow. The question is this.
HOW CAN SOMEONE BE REAL?
1. Instead of judging people by their past, stand by them and help them build their future. Everyone has a past. Some are a source of pride, and others are best left behind. But whatever is their past, people do change and grow, so instead of judging, standby and support them as they move toward their future. Treat them with respect and make their journey your own.
2.Treat everyone with kindness--not because they are kindhearted, but because you are. One of the greatest gifts we can give another is kindness. If someone is in need, lend a helping hand. Don't do it only for the people you like and respect--that's easy--but also for the ones who drive you crazy and those you don't even know. True kindness lies in the act of giving without the expectation of getting something in return.
3. Don't try to make yourself great by making someone else look small. The moment you think you have the right to belittle others because you are better than they are, is the moment you prove you have no power. People tend to make others feel how they themselves feel, whether it's great or small. If you can't offer help, support, or love, at least do everything in your power not to hurt them or make them feel small. Treat everyone you meet with honor.
4. Remember, everyone has a story. It may be something they've gone through in the past or something they're still dealing with, but remember that behavior doesn't happen in a vacuum. Everyone has inner battles and issues. Withhold judgment and instead offer the consideration you'd like to receive.
5. We don't meet people by accident. Every person you meet will have a role in your life, be it big or small. Some will help you grow, some will hurt you, some will inspire you to do better. At the same time, you are playing some role in their lives as well. Know that paths cross for a reason and treat people with significance.
6. Be a teacher,The best teachers are those who don't tell you how to get there but show the way. There is no better joy than helping people see a vision for themselves, seeing them go to levels higher than they ever would have imagined on their own. But that doesn't mean you have to fix them or enable them; instead, guide them to the source of their own power. Offer them support and motivation as they find their own way and show you what they're capable of. All you have to do is believe in them.
7. Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up. We like to think of life as a meritocracy,(influential class of educated people) so it's easy to look down on someone who isn't as successful or accomplished or well educated as you are. But you have no idea how far that person has already climbed or where they will end up. Time could easily reverse your positions, so be sure you treat everyone with dignity.
In conclusion,
Appreciate those who have supported you, forgive those who have hurt you, help those who need you. Business is complicated, life is complex, and leadership is difficult. Treat all people--including yourself--with love and compassion, and you can't go wrong.
Treat people the way you want to be treated and life will instantly get better. THANK YOU.
Written by,Udo Etimbuk C.
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